parenting...should you have a license??

all i have to say is this...ABSOLUTELY!! but then that would raise a whole other set of rules and regulations for someone to have to micro manage...now wouldn't it.

all i know is that day in and day out i see people that have children...well quite frankly that just shouldn't!! now im not saying that im the greatest parent by any means..however my children have turned out fairly well..not 1/2 bad really, and let me tell you the dysfunction they come from..there father marriage # 3 and not happy!! and i could go on for hours about the abuse that is handed out there on a daily basis to all of us...love = money i guess thats good for the kids!! they have really nice things so they look good for pops!! :)

there mother well divorced twice and well i dont have a lot of money, but i do have a lot of love!! im just hangin out raising kids trying to do my best to keep my "private" life away from the chitlins..you know kinda like a Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde in the female sense...when the cats away the mice will play so to speak..i have difficulties with understanding myself and relationships with men...no denying it. but have managed to raise the kids to understand that its NOT theirs to own!! our lives are our own to command to control!! we will see if its a job well done in the long run i guess...

back to the license...sooo im at jr high orientation with my son today and well he gets his schedule and i say..."well...go to find your locker open it up find your classes do your thing!! ill b here for moral support"...so off we go as im looking around i see parent after parent with their child's schedule in their hand finding the locker..for their child, finding the classrooms for their child...and im thinking to myself WTF!!! wait a minute here!! ah...whos going to school in a couple of days?? OH SHIT!! (hit myself in the head) ya MOM an DAD are!!! wtf am i thinking this makes total sense that the parents are enabling the kids well to be helpless and not accountable for screwing up!!! god forbid they get lost or have to ask for directions or...wait....even help.....OH NO!!!

im tired of kids NOT having the responsibility and or experience of screwing up!! i mean isnt that what gives us our character in a way? anymore these kids cant speak for themselves cant think for themselves cant SCREW up for themselves!! why? well because mommy and daddy have conditioned you so much on how to "look" for them...shit they have taken over your brain!! i mean we dont want our kids to look like idiots!! not the fool..we cant have their feelings hurt!! OH NO!! i mean dont these things have to happen in order for us NOT to learn to do it again...in order to create a bit of character for others to enjoy??

i have worked i pediatrics for years...and another dysfunction...the NEED to feel NEEDED!! good god some of these parents never had a lick of attention/affection as a child growing up...so what do they do? look to their children...they want them to hurt, feel bad, have a hard time or be scared because then it fills the need to be wanted!! and creates a whole world of freaky dysfunction that well NO medication can even come close to fixing...oooo another topic for a different day DRUGS!!!

all im saying is that if we really evaluated potential parents and all they had to do was sign some paper work...of what it really takes/means to be a "healthy" parent...things may be a bit different i guess it would have to be someone rather sain that defines this...because well if they were dysfunctional...well screw it!!! we are all dysfunctional...its all about guidance...you either gotstit or you dont!!!!! and there is a whole hell of a lot of people out there that dont....and im scared!!

side note> i wonder how they came up with the name elmo?