so today a more serious post...i guess if you read my stuff you know im very fascinated with psychology...people, they way they react, what they say and do and why....
i recently had an experience that made me deepin my thoughts on this very subject....
just because you have experienced more in life....just because you are more "educated"...just because you were given talents or life experience that someone else may not posses which in turn create reactions from others that feed a superficial ego that would other wise NOT be there if you (like them) didn't posses that talent and or experience....
does this make you better??
yes i suppose......but does that give you the right to make someone feel less than you because of this?? or is this instinctive?? do people "mean" to make others feel "less" worthy of their time and presence?? i dont know...or...is it the others insecurity that create this to go on??
i have experienced this over and over on my lifetime....i know for myself...i don't treat people any different...whether you are poor, rich, on the street, funny, talented, not talented, mean, an adult, a child, or otherwise...i feel i try my best to give others the benefit of the doubt...
come to my home (my being)...feel safe....feel welcome....feel.....yourself.....i want you to leave me feeling...like yourself....like you could be yourself...
now don't get me wrong.....i am an Aries after all...i have opinions....and i also "decide" in my life whether you will be someone that sucks the "life" out of me and or those close to me or not....and if you do....i will not to treat you differently (i will choose not to share myself or my energy)...but its not because i think im better...........it would be because your intentions are not genuine...you are fake.......and in my eyes....there is nothing worse than a fake, self righteous human being with ulterior motives...soul suckers as i say....
i love life to the best of my ability.....if there is one thing i have taught my children is this....there is always someone smarter than you, better looking than you, more talented than you, funnier than you...ect....it is a fact of life.....this doesn't meant they are better than you....
i also tell them the same goes for when the tables are turned....if this is you that's on the other end....show them the way....so they feel empowered...for to want another to feel weak.......only makes YOUR weakness stronger....
heavy heavy......tis the mood tonight i guess...
the lighter note next time....
Friday, June 25, 2010
Saturday, June 12, 2010
I'll give you a safe word!!!
Well...it has been awhile hasn't it!?!
with my problems of not being able to do one thing at a time i find my self dabbling in way to many things and unfortunately...other things get pushed to the side...oh ya then i remember i have kids!!!! and everyone's schedules intermix and i find myself needing to be in 5 places all at the same time...well enough of that!
My recent adventure in conversation (mind you i have had many to write about just haven't made it to the slate room) came to me while listening to my co workers during the unusual lunchtime weirdness that happens at my place of employment...(im usually gone) however on this fine day i returned from usually running of errands get the hell out to breath time to me a bit early...and well...im glad i did...
so the conversation i walk in on is this...(belly laughing) "Ok so im listening to the radio and Bob begins to tell story about a girl he met and how they get naked she has tattoos (im keeping it short) of some angels butterfly's (the usual hmmm i don't know what to get so ill look through a tat book and shout out 'that looks cute!!! and vwala you look like a biker!!) and then he notices she has one on her side of a zipper...the gent asks ?? she in turn responds that's a memento of my X (really?) that was my "safe" word for him....the co worker then goes on to say that the man looks at her confused and responds (in scared voice im sure) "safe word"...so they begin doing their biz and they are getting into it and she starts choking him and basically doing the ol bondage thing of which we have all "heard" of (some of which do)....he proceeds to ask her what the hell she is doing ? shes says oh you want to choke me? he s says NO!!!!....you can figure out the rest...but what caught my attention was the safe word dealio....and how this nonchalantly got passed over during conversation...
i proceed to ask...."what the hell is a safe word??" so another individual (who knew a bit to much of this subject for my liking) proceeds to tell me well...when your whipping, slapping, biting, choking each other you both pick a word that you "yell" out as your safe word that tells the other person you have gone to far and you need to "back off" WHAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! are you kidding me?? what the hell is wrong with people?? and what happens when your being choked and you cant say "lovemuffin"??? (no this wouldn't be my safe word) they read your lips while there in some kindof sadistic trance??? yikes??? mine would be a fist in the face...but then again that would turn them on....that's a problem!!
how does one get to the point while getting naked and rolling around on the ground i want to grab my partner and choke them.....ya that's going to turn me on!!!! im thinkin you need some therapy!!! something bad happened to you!!! i mean i get the occasional spank, nibble, and roughness but a word to use because you have gone to far?????? thats just....well that just yells "I NEED TO SEE A PSYCHOLOGIST!!" WHAT HAS HAPPENED TO US??? where did the love go? when did the train fall off the tracks??
the instant gratification/pushing the limits sickness our world is suffering right now is sad...it is stripping the beauty of love from the youngins...the courting has now turned into "hey check out this porn on the internet and then lets FUCK!!!" its sad to me that woman...well quite frankly men are put in these places now to feel like they have to be nasty and quite frankly whorish to be loved...
intimacy is something to be cherished....respected right? maybe i have it all wrong? that raw emotion of lust and love isnt respected by men or woman anymore...we have no self control....its the self control that makes it good...the anticipation...the creative respectful spontaneity after you have become comfortable....our selfishness has taken over...
mind you we ARE animals...but last time i checked....i havnt heard and fuzzy creatures yelling out a "safe" word while fornicating...
with my problems of not being able to do one thing at a time i find my self dabbling in way to many things and unfortunately...other things get pushed to the side...oh ya then i remember i have kids!!!! and everyone's schedules intermix and i find myself needing to be in 5 places all at the same time...well enough of that!
My recent adventure in conversation (mind you i have had many to write about just haven't made it to the slate room) came to me while listening to my co workers during the unusual lunchtime weirdness that happens at my place of employment...(im usually gone) however on this fine day i returned from usually running of errands get the hell out to breath time to me a bit early...and well...im glad i did...
so the conversation i walk in on is this...(belly laughing) "Ok so im listening to the radio and Bob begins to tell story about a girl he met and how they get naked she has tattoos (im keeping it short) of some angels butterfly's (the usual hmmm i don't know what to get so ill look through a tat book and shout out 'that looks cute!!! and vwala you look like a biker!!) and then he notices she has one on her side of a zipper...the gent asks ?? she in turn responds that's a memento of my X (really?) that was my "safe" word for him....the co worker then goes on to say that the man looks at her confused and responds (in scared voice im sure) "safe word"...so they begin doing their biz and they are getting into it and she starts choking him and basically doing the ol bondage thing of which we have all "heard" of (some of which do)....he proceeds to ask her what the hell she is doing ? shes says oh you want to choke me? he s says NO!!!!....you can figure out the rest...but what caught my attention was the safe word dealio....and how this nonchalantly got passed over during conversation...
i proceed to ask...."what the hell is a safe word??" so another individual (who knew a bit to much of this subject for my liking) proceeds to tell me well...when your whipping, slapping, biting, choking each other you both pick a word that you "yell" out as your safe word that tells the other person you have gone to far and you need to "back off" WHAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! are you kidding me?? what the hell is wrong with people?? and what happens when your being choked and you cant say "lovemuffin"??? (no this wouldn't be my safe word) they read your lips while there in some kindof sadistic trance??? yikes??? mine would be a fist in the face...but then again that would turn them on....that's a problem!!
how does one get to the point while getting naked and rolling around on the ground i want to grab my partner and choke them.....ya that's going to turn me on!!!! im thinkin you need some therapy!!! something bad happened to you!!! i mean i get the occasional spank, nibble, and roughness but a word to use because you have gone to far?????? thats just....well that just yells "I NEED TO SEE A PSYCHOLOGIST!!" WHAT HAS HAPPENED TO US??? where did the love go? when did the train fall off the tracks??
the instant gratification/pushing the limits sickness our world is suffering right now is sad...it is stripping the beauty of love from the youngins...the courting has now turned into "hey check out this porn on the internet and then lets FUCK!!!" its sad to me that woman...well quite frankly men are put in these places now to feel like they have to be nasty and quite frankly whorish to be loved...
intimacy is something to be cherished....respected right? maybe i have it all wrong? that raw emotion of lust and love isnt respected by men or woman anymore...we have no self control....its the self control that makes it good...the anticipation...the creative respectful spontaneity after you have become comfortable....our selfishness has taken over...
mind you we ARE animals...but last time i checked....i havnt heard and fuzzy creatures yelling out a "safe" word while fornicating...
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