I'll give you a safe word!!!

Well...it has been awhile hasn't it!?!

with my problems of not being able to do one thing at a time i find my self dabbling in way to many things and unfortunately...other things get pushed to the side...oh ya then i remember i have kids!!!! and everyone's schedules intermix and i find myself needing to be in 5 places all at the same time...well enough of that!

My recent adventure in conversation (mind you i have had many to write about just haven't made it to the slate room) came to me while listening to my co workers during the unusual lunchtime weirdness that happens at my place of employment...(im usually gone) however on this fine day i returned from usually running of errands get the hell out to breath time to me a bit early...and well...im glad i did...

so the conversation i walk in on is this...(belly laughing) "Ok so im listening to the radio and Bob begins to tell story about a girl he met and how they get naked she has tattoos (im keeping it short) of some angels butterfly's (the usual hmmm i don't know what to get so ill look through a tat book and shout out 'that looks cute!!! and vwala you look like a biker!!) and then he notices she has one on her side of a zipper...the gent asks ?? she in turn responds that's a memento of my X (really?) that was my "safe" word for him....the co worker then goes on to say that the man looks at her confused and responds (in scared voice im sure) "safe word"...so they begin doing their biz and they are getting into it and she starts choking him and basically doing the ol bondage thing of which we have all "heard" of (some of which do)....he proceeds to ask her what the hell she is doing ? shes says oh you want to choke me? he s says NO!!!!....you can figure out the rest...but what caught my attention was the safe word dealio....and how this nonchalantly got passed over during conversation...

i proceed to ask...."what the hell is a safe word??" so another individual (who knew a bit to much of this subject for my liking) proceeds to tell me well...when your whipping, slapping, biting, choking each other you both pick a word that you "yell" out as your safe word that tells the other person you have gone to far and you need to "back off" WHAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! are you kidding me?? what the hell is wrong with people?? and what happens when your being choked and you cant say "lovemuffin"??? (no this wouldn't be my safe word) they read your lips while there in some kindof sadistic trance??? yikes??? mine would be a fist in the face...but then again that would turn them on....that's a problem!!

how does one get to the point while getting naked and rolling around on the ground i want to grab my partner and choke them.....ya that's going to turn me on!!!! im thinkin you need some therapy!!! something bad happened to you!!! i mean i get the occasional spank, nibble, and roughness but a word to use because you have gone to far?????? thats just....well that just yells "I NEED TO SEE A PSYCHOLOGIST!!" WHAT HAS HAPPENED TO US??? where did the love go? when did the train fall off the tracks??

the instant gratification/pushing the limits sickness our world is suffering right now is sad...it is stripping the beauty of love from the youngins...the courting has now turned into "hey check out this porn on the internet and then lets FUCK!!!" its sad to me that woman...well quite frankly men are put in these places now to feel like they have to be nasty and quite frankly whorish to be loved...

intimacy is something to be cherished....respected right? maybe i have it all wrong? that raw emotion of lust and love isnt respected by men or woman anymore...we have no self control....its the self control that makes it good...the anticipation...the creative respectful spontaneity after you have become comfortable....our selfishness has taken over...

mind you we ARE animals...but last time i checked....i havnt heard and fuzzy creatures yelling out a "safe" word while fornicating...